We all feel loved in different ways, and it still surprises me how it all works. We tend to show love to others the way in which we feel most loved, but they don’t always feel most loved by what we offer.
When my husband and I read Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages, it changed everything.
Who knew I wasn’t getting credit in his love bank for all the times I was trying to hold his hand?
And how would he know that as he was taking the time to fix up the house, paint the walls, and tile the floors that I didn’t feel most loved by it, even though it was a loving thing to do?
We all feel loved in different ways, and as we try to show love to those who mean the most to us, loving them in the way they most feel loved becomes the key.
And the crazy thing is, God knows exactly what we need to feel loved. He created us with the capacity to love and the deep longing to be loved. And He didn’t just stop there, He moved. Toward us.
God met our deepest longing, reached out and loved us first.
He made the way.
This perfect all-knowing, all-powerful, majestic and Holy Creator of the universe chose to love me,
And you, before we even knew we needed Him.
And not only that, He continues to love us … through our stubbornness, and ignorance … amidst our pride and selfish ways.
He stays, and pursues…
And when we say yes to Him, He restores and redeems the mess all over again.
This IS it.
Not that we loved God, but that He loved us.
And I can’t tell you how thankful I am that I am my beloved’s and He really is mine.
Have you read Gary Chapman’s Book, The Five Love Languages?
What is your primary love language?
And if you don’t know your love language, you can take the free online assessment for you, your husband, or your children by clicking here → The Five Love Languages Assessment
I’m joining Lisa-Jo, over at her site today, to take five minutes and just write without worrying if it’s just right or not. The challenge is to write for 5 minutes flat with no editing, tweaking or self critiquing, with the prompt she gives. And today, her prompt:
Beloved…
That’s really good! My husband and I have retaken the love language test several times throughout our relationship and it has helped every time, just a reminder that we need to speak each other’s better.
My husband and I have very different love languages, and it has most definitely been a process to find how we can best show love to each other. It’s so humbling (and incredible!) to know that God loves me in His perfect way despite the times that I am so unlovable. I’ve realized, too, that my husband often mirrors my Father’s love…loving me on some ugly days when I don’t deserve it. Thank you for these beautiful words today! Have a great weekend, friend! 🙂
Dear Jaque
Oh, I had to smile when I read your post for I know what you are talking above. Knowing how your spouse shows love and want to be loved is the key and that is where communicating comes in! Our Pappa God’s amazing, unconditional love is still the most wondrous of all! Over via FMF.
Much love to you
Mia
I’m stopping by from FMF and I so loved this post. I have read Gary Chapman’s book a couple of time and it’s been incredibly helpful a in identifying my primary love language is words of affirmation. What’s so cool about your post is the way you brought it all back to God and his ability to move toward us in the most universal of love languages relentless, consistent, unconditional pursuit. Thanks for an encouraging read.
Thank you Jacque for this post. First for what you learned from Gary Chapman’s book. I do believe that I need to read it. My husband and I both miss the mark on loving one another in the way each needs love. Also for the reminder that God knows exactly how to love us. Praise God.
And isn’t that always so true…to speak their love language to them makes all the difference!
Mel, that’s so beautiful! Thank you for sharing that… 🙂
Yes Mia it is…the most wondrous of all!!
Osheta, you are so welcome…so glad you stopped in 🙂
Susan, I think you would really like the book…it was so SO helpful! Have a blessed week 🙂